Whenever I'm around a large group of my in-laws, I'm inevitably asked if Cavin and I are going to adopt a child. While they're all accepting of me and Cavin, I don't consider my in-laws to be a big bastion of liberalism. I saw plenty of reelection signs for Bush during the last election cycle, during which I also remember listening to a heated conversation in Vietnamese where the only two words I caught were "Kerry" and "communist."
But like most Americans, on the day-to-day aspects of life and family they're open and supportive. So it makes you wonder what the hell is up with John McCain.
The more I consider McCain's attempt to walk back from his anti-gay-adoption stance without actually walking back from it, the more perturbed I get. Basically, he's pushing the idea that gay parents are inferior, unwelcome, and to be discouraged but okay as a case of last resort. In other words, we're there to take care of the kids the straight don't or won't take care of.
I can't find my copy of the book at the moment for an exact quote, but Dan Savage touched on an aspect of this issue in the story of his adoption, The Kid -- basically that he realized he didn't want to be the noble gay man taking on the damaged and discarded children of the world. He wanted a family, the same as heterosexual couples hope and wish for healthy, "normal" children -- and there's nothing wrong or selfish about that.
I should be really clear here that people who take in those children who face terrible odds, for whatever the cause, are people who should be admired and honored because, while it obviously has its rewards, it also has challenges that I think most people couldn't handle. But those people are both straight and gay; their commitment comes from their humanity, not their sexuality.
But the whole issue is pretty much McCain in a nutshell. The more attention you pay to the man and his policies, the ickier he gets.
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